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To Anti-Prop 8 voters

This post is primarily for those who are upset (and justifiably so!) with the results of the election.

I am upset too.  However, our outrage for the passage of Proposition 8 must be tempered with patience and courage. 

This is not an end, it is a setback.  Our state and our country are simply not ready for that kind of equality.  Yet.  

Over the past two centuries, we have as a country pushed racism out to the fringes of our society.  Yes, it still exists, in large amounts.  However, racism is now confined to individual incidents and opinions, rather than the massive government-sponsored patterns of bigoted behavior seen not so very long ago. 

Sometimes things need to get worse before they get better. 

People are afraid.  Fear makes people do irrational things.  Fear does not make you a Bad Person, even if that fear is totally irrational and based completely outside reality.  Emotions are funny that way.  They are, quite simply, the most powerful facet of the human psyche.  Think about it.  In sufficient quantity, emotions can overcome a human being's very survival instinct, the most powerful instinct any animal possesses.  If fear can motivate one to end their own existence, is it really so difficult to believe that fear could motivate one to mark the "YES" box, even when their conscience says NO?

The only salve for this fear is time.  Every generation has been more accepting than the previous.  Every year more studies come out showing that homosexuals are just as likely to make good parents and heterosexuals.  Every moment our country becomes just a little more used to the lifestyle choices and cultures of others. 

This will not be solved in one sweeping blow.  The fear that motivated the results of this election will slowly erode over time.  As gay culture becomes more mainstream, people will become accustomed to it. 

It was not so long ago that a black man and a white woman holding hands would have elicited dropped jaws and cold stares in the most liberal of areas.  Now it is generally dismissed as the natural order of things.  Someday the same will be true of two women holding hands. 

So calm yourself.  Take a deep breath.  This is not the end of the road, but merely an inconvenient detour.

Comments

xi_am_the_0nex
Nov. 6th, 2008 07:53 pm (UTC)
I suppose we'll have to disagree.

Despite the fact that people still call it marriage, it is merely a financial contract when you get "married" at city hall (And that's what a No on Prop 8 would have entailed for all the same sex couples that wanted to get married). My uncle is "married" to his wife, but they didn't have a marriage ceremony, they went downtown and signed some papers. The end. It doesn't speak about their love because they are secure with that, it merely makes their lives easier financially.

The lines are indeed blurred in this country, but this is far from "Separate but Equal." It's unfortunately, a matter of semantics. At the end of the day, if people are still garnering equal rights (Because these would indeed be EQUAL unlike the shoddy institutions and facilities set up during the "Separate but Equal" period) what does it matter if it's not called marriage? Are people going to be that petty over a stupid title?

Are people not joined together through love before the ceremony itself? To me, it all seems silly.

The Anti-Prop 8 movement merely wants to be better than everyone because they've been marginalized, and they want to feel like their struggle accounts for something. The Pro-Prop 8 movement is narrow minded and scared because of something they don't understand. Either way, it's an issue of people missing the big picture, focusing on titles, and large scale soap boxing that hinders actual dialogue on an incredibly nuanced situation.

And for the record, I voted against Prop 8 on the sole basis of civil equality. For me, it's more pressing that people are treated equally under the law. What cultural institutions say about someone's background is none of my business and frankly, nobodies business.

You don't like it, pick a different faith.
yokaze
Nov. 6th, 2008 08:13 pm (UTC)
As we think and communicate primarily in words, they are pretty important.

Language is a living thing. Definitions change, and not always for the better.

"Marriage" used to be a holy union between two people witnessed by a Christian church. It is still that, but over the centuries the word began to be used colloquially to mean "a civil union" with all of the tax incentives and legal ramifications that entails.

Even the document to be signed is a Marriage certificate.

Even the definitions of marriage (per dictionary.com) have changed to include the words "social" and "legal" as well as religious.

1. the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.
2. the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of a man and woman to live as husband and wife, including the accompanying social festivities: to officiate at a marriage.
3. a relationship in which two people have pledged themselves to each other in the manner of a husband and wife, without legal sanction: trial marriage; homosexual marriage.

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